Stained glass only hides soo much.

Wednesday, May 24, 1985

Within the first three seconds of a new encounter, you are evaluated even if it is just a glance.
People appraise your visual and behavioral appearance from head to toe. They observe your demeanor, mannerisms, and body language and even assess your grooming and accessories watch, handbag, briefcase. Within only three seconds, you make an indelible impression. You may intrigue some and disenchant others.
This first impression process occurs in every new situation. Within the first few seconds, people pass judgment on you looking for common surface clues. Once the first impression is made, it is hard to reverse instantly.
The process works like this:
If you appear to be of comparable business or social level, you are considered suitable for further interaction.
If you appear to be of higher business or social status, you are admired and cultivated as a valuable contact.
If you appear to be of lower business or social standing, you are tolerated but kept at arm's length.
If you are in an interview situation, you can either appear to match the corporate culture or not, ultimately affecting the outcome.
It is human nature to constantly make these appraisals, in business and social environments. You may hardly have said a word, however once this three-second evaluation is over, the content of your speech will not change it. When you make the best possible first impression, you have your audience in the palm of your hand. When you make a poor first impression, you lose your audiences attention, no matter how hard you scramble to recover it.

This is how people are able to manipulate and use people. Some have mastered this art and indeed fooled most of those around them. Others use it in their best interest to conduct business, especially in marketing, to make themselves succeed. Its strange how much of your life can be affected by 3 seconds. Some people dont even have a 3 second reaction time, yet it doesnt matter they can still be destroyed within the 3 seconds. So whether you use this for business or to gain a quick social advantage eventually will be seen through like a window. You need to have the good to back up the talk or you are left looking quite foolish. I feel it is best to be honest with yourself and be true to who you are. Then you will get what you deserve, people will see who you really are and you will gain true respect from the people who matter.